Only if nothing exists, then there exists no hate or love for it.

But if something does exist, then it is inevitable for love and hate for it to arrive.

But after creation, there is an uncomfortable period.

Hate and indifference arrives faster than love

For us, skepticism is instant and trust builds up slowly.

That exactly is the human and social tendency.

So for almost everything

There is period where it is ignored and ridiculed and love does not exist for it

For that love to arrive it has to survive long enough for love to be build.

We have to have indifference and low exposure to the knee jerk reactions from people about things we create.

We have to have a buffer period after which emotional reactions to our project can be taken seriously.

By all means take functional feedback seriously since start.

But not emotional one.

The other way to look at this would be :

If you want no hate, if you want to ridicule, if you don’t want to be ignored,

Then simply don’t exist.

Because if it exists, it gets hate and love.

You wont be hated for your act if you didn’t do anything.

You wont be ridiculed if you never left your room.

You wont be embarrassed if you never talk and naturally slip up with people.

See how ridiculous it is?

See the cost of our juvenile desire for ‘no hate’?

To exist and thrive is to overcome the emotional pressures this world exerts on us.

Many of us are not procrastinating out of laziness at all.

We are honest to god, hardworking people and amazing kind humans.

It is our fear of being hated, fear of being ridiculed that stops us.

But not anymore.

Do what you want.

And never make ‘no hate’ and ‘no ridicule’ your wants, let alone needs.

You are not electron that you should change because someone observed you, you not are a thing on which observer’s effect is applicable.

You are surrendering the locus of control to external world’s most chaotic part if you let observers affect your path.

Don’t change behavior on account of judgement or anticipation of judgement by an observer.

Live like a Human.

If you dig enough, you might realise that cringe in most cases is second hand fear of being hated or ridiculed.